Having worked around children for most of my life through being a mother, teacher & now a nanna too I reflect on how I dealt with 'tantrums', 'outbursts' 'behaviour that was deemed poor' . Did I try to suppress the behaviour, shut it down by trying to fix it with phrases like; 'stop crying, you'll be fine' 'act more maturely' 'stop throwing your toys' 'you need to show you dad more respect' 'If you don't eat your vegetables you can't have dessert!' But I realise now, I was missing the point....